Dyson Disappointment

I’m not one to complain much… but this is a rant…  After nearly 18 years of loyal service our beloved Dyson Animal finally had to be put to sleep, the last straw was being used to clean up after our extension work – we have all been feeling the pain from the whole experience, but Dyson suffered particularly at their hands.

So, it was with some excitement that we looked at all the options for a new one – a shiny one with gadgets and a recoiling wire was chosen as it appeared to meet all our pet hair/storage/bad back needs. They are not cheap, and after the aforementioned extension we are trying not to over spend… but on our last experience 18 years makes it a pretty good deal all in all.

HOWEVER – there are so many annoying things about our new vacuum it’s turned into an object of great frustration. The most annoying thing is that it doesn’t reach the top of the stairs – I could be doing something wrong, but I feel competent and experienced enough to have worked it out by now, it just doesn’t. It also has the smallest joint between the suction and the ‘bin’ which is blocked by almost everything and requires the entire machine to be stripped down to clean it out. In a house with a dog and three kids, this means it is permanently blocked by something and because of the bad back, can only be sorted by Mr A – making it virtually impossible to vacuum.

Disappointment is a strange thing, luckily it’s not something I’m exposed to very much. It can take joy from everything it touches, and make you feel a fool. Such high hopes have been dashed, but too much money has been spent for a replacement… so the battle continues 😦

Pregancy Files – Weeks 4-8

For some people there is still nothing to report at this stage, others will be throwing up day and night and feeling rubbish. Even if you have been pregnant before, each experience will be different so you can’t assume you know what’s coming. Most of us in the UK will need to book an appointment with a Midwife via our GP – they usually don’t want to see you until around Week 10 as in these early stages 1 in 4 pregnancies will end in miscarriage.

This is a horrid subject to discuss, but it’s worth reflecting on just for a moment. Some women will have a miscarriage at a very early stage and not even know, it may just feel like a very heavy period. It may happen before you have even told friends and family (or just after :(). This is why who and when to tell your news needs to be thought through… We have always waited until after the first scan – around Week 12 to share our news ‘publicly’ this was after a sad experience our first time round. However, it’s likely you will want the kindness and support of your closest people whether things go well or not, so you may want to tell a few choice individuals. We have experienced this more than once, in January we miscarried twins at 11 weeks which we are still learning to come to terms with. There are lots of great professional support systems out there if you ever need them a good one in the UK is The Miscarriage Association. People will often talk about ‘losing’ a baby, which I really dislike as it makes me sound careless – I didn’t loose them, it wasn’t a choice.

If you have experienced a previous miscarriage you may be able to get an early ‘reassurance’ scan via your local EPAC (Early Pregnancy Assessment Centre), this will probably be in your local hospital.

On a more positive note, this is such an exciting time. So much is happening to the tiny life inside you, not much of which you will know about! There are lots of apps and websites around that you can sign up to for a weekly digest of what’s going on, they are likely to offer you vegetable and fruit sizes as a comparison to baby’s rapid growth and some photos of what baby looks like – in the very early stages it won’t look much like a baby so these can be a bit unnerving.

The most common experience at this stage is incredible tiredness, if you are able to just sleep when you can, if you care for others this is hard, but make sure you eat well, drink lots of water and rest as much as possible. If you are in the loo every few minutes, or throwing up they are all positive signs – really it will all be worth it in the end xx

My skin is singing…

This happened again – must remember to do it more!!

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This post may shock people of a sensitive nature. In five years I had three beautiful children (that’s not the shocking bit…), and I wouldn’t change that for the world – however the impact was, clearly, mighty. No one really tells you all the things you need to know about becoming a parent, and I suppose you can’t really prepare people for something so extraordinary – certainly I wasn’t warned about the amount of singing I would be expected to do.

But the biggest challenge for me has been the basics, a simple example is that I don’t get to wash everyday. I always manage a quick wet wipe, but not a full shower/hair wash/cleanse tone and moisturise affair. To get four of us up, cleaned, dressed, fed, tidied, nurtured, read to, cleaned again, noses wiped, special toy found, shoes on, coats etc etc , and out to school, nursery…

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Book Review – Princess Stay Awake

We’ve come to love Giles Paley-Phillips offerings, the characters are a bit more edgy than some picture books, and the stories a have a bit more ‘bite’ than others…

Princess Stay Awake is the tale of desperate parents attempting to get their toddler to go to bed… proving even Kings and Queens with all their resources can’t magic ways to a good sleep routine – having tried jesters, Sir Runsalot and even Wizard Wilf they are left with no option but to call in Grandma!

This is a great story for talking about why sleep is important, and also a lovely gift for a grandparent – or for them to read at bedtime and be the ‘hero’. The rhyme is very gentle and easy for the reader, the illustrations are great fun with lots of additional information to point out (we counted all the rabbits) to make the book good for more that one read.

It’s become a firm favourite in our house x

Inside Out – Movie Review

Mmm this is a tricky one – the premise of the movie itself is extraordinarily complicated – and how I feel about the experience is too! The story is about Riley, an 11 year old girl who has to move home and make major life changes, her experiences are expressed by the various ’emotions’ that she uses to make sense of the world, and these are characters in her head. The movie is able to explain feelings, memories, ageing, life changes and human interaction via the vehicle of a funny kids movie – which is pure genius. Big A and Middle A at 5 and 6 were able to understand the concepts and we’ve had some very interesting discussions since…

However, I would not recommend watching it in a heightened emotional state (in my case pregnancy hormones) as it’s is a real challenge to our own understanding of how we grow and change and what memories fade and which become our core values. I cried myself stupid for most of the second half of the film…

I think on reflection it’s a really beautiful story, but I’m not sure it’s quite the kids film it aims to be.